Day 6 - The Small Things We Miss When We Make Big Resolutions

December 31st. The biggest day of the year for planning. Everyone’s getting their resolutions in order and double-checking their goals for the coming year. I’m doing this as well, but we may be missing something seemingly small, but bigger than our huge goals and aspirations.

 

Our lives are made up of millions of tiny seconds. (This is why I can’t conceive of "living for the weekend”. Like really? You’re going to spend 5 days of every week of your life looking forward to 2?). The greatest way we change is typically not through dramatic events, but small moments. Ones we may not even be aware of. Change is boring and mundane not dramatic and exciting. Now, looking back at change is exciting.

 

"How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives. What we do with this hour, and that one, is what we are doing. A schedule defends from chaos and whim. It is a net for catching days. It is a scaffolding on which a worker can stand and labor with both hands at sections of time. A schedule is a mock-up of reason and order—willed, faked, and so brought into being; it is a peace and a haven set into the wreck of time; it is a lifeboat on which you find yourself, decades later, still living. Each day is the same, so you remember the series afterward as a blurred and powerful pattern." Annie Dillard

 

“The little moments of life are profoundly important precisely because they are the little moments that we live in that form us.” Paul David Tripp

 

If the above is true then we need more than huge resolutions. We need “Whys” and “Hows”.

 

- Whys - 

 

I stole this from

 

· Your vision (your WHY) = 10–25 years’ out

· Your long-term goals (AKA your wild guess) = 36 months’ out

· Your actual goals (AKA your realistic game plan) = the next 90 days

 

Why is that specific thing on your list of resolutions? If you've even remotely heard of Simon Sinek you've heard of the importance of starting with “Why?”

 

Start with your vision. What are your goals not for 2018, but for 2028 or 2043? Where do you want to be on those New Year's Days? That should dictate this years goals. 

 

- Hows - 

 

This is the part where you break down the year into 365 days. How are you going to daily achieve these resolutions? Get practical and then break those things down even further. Major in the minors. What are you going to start or stop doing each day, each hour that will lead you to complete these goals? How you spend your days is how you spend your life. They say don't miss the forest for the trees. I'm saying don't get so caught up in the forest that you forget to appreciate and utilize each and every tree.

Pro-tip: Write up a daily routine that integrates your resolutions. You’ll be much more likely to complete them if you do. 

 

To reiterate:

1. 2043

2. Today

3. 2018