Day 13 - Let's Talk About Settling

“On your last day on earth, the person you became will meet the person you could have become.” — Someone’s definition of hell.


Settling. What comes to your mind when you see that word? I’ll tell you what comes to mine, disgust, sadness, and wasted potential. Three not very positive things. Settling might be one of my biggest pet peeves. No, pet peeve isn’t strong enough. One of my greatest hatreds, that’s better. There are two main areas people tend to settle in.


1. Relationships


Well, this is a tricky one so I’ll try and keep it short. Many people lack patience, including myself, you should see my driving. Many people lack confidence, including myself, but I’ll try and fake it till the day I die. When you add a lack of patience with a lack of confidence in one’s self it will always result in settling. Many people’s fear is looking back and seeing this reality has played out in their life. Run from it! Don’t rush "forever". 


2. Life


This is the more important one. You only get one of these and you're responsible for every second of it. One of the many problems with formal education is it trains us to be passive. Everything is laid out for us. Get on the bus, sit in class, go home, do homework, repeat. This continues in college, but it’s not as laid out. Then you graduate and realize nothing is laid out for us. Sure once you get a job you’re told what you need to do, but how do get a job? How do you perform well in your job? Not much of this is explained to us in formal education unless it’s a specific trade.


What is regret? Isn’t it just realizing you settled for a lesser option? An easier, passive, worse option? Well, I don’t know about you, but I’m not trying to grow old with many regrets. I’d rather look back on a thousand failures than a life of settling. 


    “Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone, and as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” - Marianne Williamson